"The more you hate, the more you love."
What an ironic statement. Whoever said those words must
have been drunk. The bottom line is this: It is extremely
difficult to like or love something that you despise.
But what can we do to solve this dilemma? What if you're
trapped in an environment that you don't want to be involved
in? What if you're sick and tired of your job that you
feel like screaming every time someone mentions your work?
So what can you do? Of course, you take inspired and motivated action to
get out of your present rut and start living the life you've always dreamed of. Well you would, wouldn’t you?
If I said it wasn’t going to be easy and that you will have to
come out of your comfort zones to discover your potential and explore
opportunities waiting for you. And that you will have to conquer your
fear and take calculated risks. You have to stay focused
and persevere despite the difficulties you will encounter. You would still think it was worth it to give yourself a better life, the life you deserve.
Some people will have read the above paragraph and given up already. But let’s be realistic. Success doesn't come easy. It takes heart and passion. It may also take some time before you can actually se the benefits of your efforts. But making the effort is worth every moment, believe me.
But what you want to know is how do you actually survive this stage? This is the moment when you're working extra hard to reach your goals. This is also the instance when you're enduring whatever obstacle hits you.
For example, you're employed in a job that you hate. You know deep inside that you would not like to stay in the rat race throughout your life. So you decided to engage in a part-time business or to study night courses. This is a step in
the right direction because you have admitted to yourself that things
have to change for your life to get better.
So far so good. A few days later, you feel that time is running away
From you. You don’t seem to have time for family and friends, socializing is a thing of the past. You seem to be more busier than when you were in the job you hated. At least then you could leave the pressure behind in the office until the next day. You wonder what has gone wrong. If you are not careful you start doubting yourself and once negative thoughts get a hold of you, you might has well give up the fight.
This is the time to stop and reflect on what you are trying to achieve.
Remember we are only looking to making small changes every day to get the success we want.
Don’t attract negative influences into your life. You know what I mean. People who would like you to give up your goal so they can say “I told you it was going to be too hard for you to do”. These people make never have attempted to achieve their goals but feel they are the experts on what will work and what won’t.
Yes, you have to work harder, dig deeper, and may have to make some sacrifice reach your goals.
But no, you don't have to hate the world and feel bad about your difficult situation. Remember the Law of Attraction. If you hate the world, the world hates you back.
So what do you have to do?
Learn to love your current situation. See all the positive sides of life. Be enthusiastic. Love your boss, your coworkers, your family, your friends, and
even strangers that you meet on the streets. It may not be easy, but nothing is impossible with a strong willpower. Just don't fall in love so much that you
totally forget about your dreams.
Balance is the key. Dream and take some positive action to move you toward your goals. Take it one step at a time. But while you're slowly walking towards
the long journey to success, be patient and be as enthusiastic as possible. Don't be is such a rush that you forget how to enjoy life.
And one day, you will finally reach what you have always longed for.
And when that day comes, enjoy it. Encourage others to make their journeys. Be proof that it can be done.
When you see others who are less successful than yourself, help them. Let your positive personality rub off on them. Let them know there will be times when they feel they cannot achieve their goal. Explain that the bad time will pass and they will come out of it stronger and more determined to succeed.
Are you ready to begin the journey?
Start it with the courage and desire to improve your life. Survive
and go through it with persistence, enthusiasm, and
positive thinking. Finish it with a resounding bang
of accomplishment and with the desire to help others
succeed as well.
If you feel goal setting, affirmations, visualisation is not working for you, don’t worry, all is not lost. You may find all the help you need is here. Click Here!
Sunday, April 29, 2007
How to Visualise and Affirm Your Deepest Desires
I want you to try a easy experiment. It involves closing your eyes and daydreaming what you want your life to be. But to make it more effective, I want you to make this daydream very vivid. Add colour, make it bold, passionate. This is called visulatisation and it can help you on your way to have the life you want for yourself.
If you want to be more confident, close your eyes and visualize yourself as that confident person. Our subconscious is not able to tell the difference between what is real and what we are imagining. That why I want you to make your visualisation as real as you possibiily can. Well, that's the power of imagination & visualisation. If you want to be a lawyer, visualize yourself as one. Act the part. Think of what suit you’re wearing, the judge you’re convincing, the case you're handling, and the courtroom you’re in. Visualise the evidence. Sense the victory. Make everything real.
It would also help if you make affirmations. This will help you believe that you are what you are visualising. So you want to be a lawyer? Tell yourself, "I'm the best lawyer in the world." Don't say, "I will be the best lawyer in the world." Speak to yourself as if what you want has already happened
Say "I am," not "I will," because "I will" suggests something that will occur only in the future. You have to experience it NOW, not in the future.
You must sink into your subconscious your deepest desire. The subconscious mind can do what the conscious mind cannot.
Here's an exercise.
1. Get a comfortable and quiet place to practice your visualisation.
2. Relax your whole body. Command every part of your body to relax starting from your feet up to your head.
3. Count back slowly from 20 to 1, where in each count you relax deeper and deeper. Upon reaching 1, you are completely relaxed.
4. Now affirm your deepest desire. If you want to be a lawyer, say," I am the greatest lawyer in the world." As you're saying that, picture yourself to be the best lawyer ever, winning every case you've come across. You may say "I am now explaining to the jury my winning proposition" or anything that will affirm what you're conceiving in your mind as of the moment.
5. After about 10 to 20 minutes of continuous confirmation and visualization, count slowly from 1 to 20. Upon counting, slowly be aware of your surroundings. Feel refreshed and invigorated after doing this exercise.
6. Repeat this exercise everyday.
What you have just learned is a very powerful technique to greatly enhance the power of visualization and affirmation by imbedding it into the subconscious. What once you thought of as nearly impossible to
achieve will become easier to reach from now on.
For more information Click Here!
If you want to be more confident, close your eyes and visualize yourself as that confident person. Our subconscious is not able to tell the difference between what is real and what we are imagining. That why I want you to make your visualisation as real as you possibiily can. Well, that's the power of imagination & visualisation. If you want to be a lawyer, visualize yourself as one. Act the part. Think of what suit you’re wearing, the judge you’re convincing, the case you're handling, and the courtroom you’re in. Visualise the evidence. Sense the victory. Make everything real.
It would also help if you make affirmations. This will help you believe that you are what you are visualising. So you want to be a lawyer? Tell yourself, "I'm the best lawyer in the world." Don't say, "I will be the best lawyer in the world." Speak to yourself as if what you want has already happened
Say "I am," not "I will," because "I will" suggests something that will occur only in the future. You have to experience it NOW, not in the future.
You must sink into your subconscious your deepest desire. The subconscious mind can do what the conscious mind cannot.
Here's an exercise.
1. Get a comfortable and quiet place to practice your visualisation.
2. Relax your whole body. Command every part of your body to relax starting from your feet up to your head.
3. Count back slowly from 20 to 1, where in each count you relax deeper and deeper. Upon reaching 1, you are completely relaxed.
4. Now affirm your deepest desire. If you want to be a lawyer, say," I am the greatest lawyer in the world." As you're saying that, picture yourself to be the best lawyer ever, winning every case you've come across. You may say "I am now explaining to the jury my winning proposition" or anything that will affirm what you're conceiving in your mind as of the moment.
5. After about 10 to 20 minutes of continuous confirmation and visualization, count slowly from 1 to 20. Upon counting, slowly be aware of your surroundings. Feel refreshed and invigorated after doing this exercise.
6. Repeat this exercise everyday.
What you have just learned is a very powerful technique to greatly enhance the power of visualization and affirmation by imbedding it into the subconscious. What once you thought of as nearly impossible to
achieve will become easier to reach from now on.
For more information Click Here!
Tuesday, April 24, 2007
5 Tips To Help You Set Your Goals
We all know that having goals keeps us motivated and wanting to move forward. But at times it can be hard work trying to achieve the goals we have set ourselves. Perhaps you do what I tend to do, set long term goals, but forget to set short and mid term goals. If you have too many long-term goals and not enough short-term goals it can seem like an age before we feel we have actually achieved anything.
Goal-setting strategies are important especially for those who want to achieve long-term goals. Here are five goal-setting techniques that I hope will help you achieve them.
1. Start with short-term goals that will lead you to long-term ones. Sometimes, we unconsciously start with short-term goals. Why unconsciously? Sometimes it is easier to thing in the short term rather than a way off in the distance. And a short term goal will get us started and taking action. You may find you are content with just setting short-term goals, but after a while you may wish to set some longer term ones. Use your Short term goals as your starting point of your journey to real your long-term goals. Short-term goals are a great motivator to help us plan for longer goals.
2. Make sure you really want the goal. By this, you have to ask yourself: "Do I really want this goal? Will this goal give me what I want, for example, a better life?" Answering these questions will give you more passion to achieve your goal. You may wish to consider what made you think of this as a goal. Are you achieving your own dream or is it what someone else dreams for you?
3. Speak up. By this, it means you shouldn't keep your goals to yourself. By sharing your goals with supportive friends and family may help you stay motivated. We shouldn’t feel shy to tell others about our goals. Also you may feel more motivated if you can find someone with a similar goal to your own to give each other encouragement and support. This way you will not feel as if you are on your own in trying to reach your goal.
4. Write down your goals. This strategy is more advisable for those who have a long list of goals. After writing them, it is advisable to review them because this will encourage you to achieve them. Don’t be afraid to review your goals and make changes as and when necessary. Goals do not have to be set in stone.
5. Stay on track and don't give up. Reviewing notes will help open your mind to see if you are on the right track. While on track, you may have to face challenges that might change you. If you are a confident person you made suddenly feel depressed after finding out that you are going the wrong way in achieving the goal. This might lead to abandoning the goal. Never be discouraged. Facing obstacles is a test on how passionate you are on achieving your goal.
If you feel you need some help in setting your goals
Click Here!
Goal-setting strategies are important especially for those who want to achieve long-term goals. Here are five goal-setting techniques that I hope will help you achieve them.
1. Start with short-term goals that will lead you to long-term ones. Sometimes, we unconsciously start with short-term goals. Why unconsciously? Sometimes it is easier to thing in the short term rather than a way off in the distance. And a short term goal will get us started and taking action. You may find you are content with just setting short-term goals, but after a while you may wish to set some longer term ones. Use your Short term goals as your starting point of your journey to real your long-term goals. Short-term goals are a great motivator to help us plan for longer goals.
2. Make sure you really want the goal. By this, you have to ask yourself: "Do I really want this goal? Will this goal give me what I want, for example, a better life?" Answering these questions will give you more passion to achieve your goal. You may wish to consider what made you think of this as a goal. Are you achieving your own dream or is it what someone else dreams for you?
3. Speak up. By this, it means you shouldn't keep your goals to yourself. By sharing your goals with supportive friends and family may help you stay motivated. We shouldn’t feel shy to tell others about our goals. Also you may feel more motivated if you can find someone with a similar goal to your own to give each other encouragement and support. This way you will not feel as if you are on your own in trying to reach your goal.
4. Write down your goals. This strategy is more advisable for those who have a long list of goals. After writing them, it is advisable to review them because this will encourage you to achieve them. Don’t be afraid to review your goals and make changes as and when necessary. Goals do not have to be set in stone.
5. Stay on track and don't give up. Reviewing notes will help open your mind to see if you are on the right track. While on track, you may have to face challenges that might change you. If you are a confident person you made suddenly feel depressed after finding out that you are going the wrong way in achieving the goal. This might lead to abandoning the goal. Never be discouraged. Facing obstacles is a test on how passionate you are on achieving your goal.
If you feel you need some help in setting your goals
Click Here!
Sunday, April 22, 2007
Who's Your Worst Enemy?
Who do you consider as your worst enemy? Is it the criminals roaming we read about in the newspaper? Your boss who is giving you stress with unkind words and doesn’t appreciate your true potentional.
We may have many conceptions of who our enemies are; but we all have
one common enemy who is the main cause of our failures, and most of the time we're not even aware of this opponent.
You may not want to admit it, but our worst enemy is ourselves.
Who do you blame when something goes wrong? Do you blame the people around you, the weather, some outside force. But we are the ones who are supposed to be in control of ourselves. If we stop handing over responsibility to someone else we can change the outcome of our lives because we have the power to do that.
Perhaps, like myself, you have been too apprehensive to try out new ventures that may improve our lives. We are all guilty of half-heartedly going to work in our 9 to 5 job. I know that once I get home from work, I watch a bit of TV, check my e-mails, and start getting ready for the next day. The only time I seem to “come alive” is at the weekend. I want to have that “alive” feeling every day of the week. I know why my mind set is different at the weekend. It’s because I’m not at work. My own negative feelings about going to work make the whole experience seem a chore. I know once I change these negatives feelings I will feeling the way I do and start feeling more positive.
So I have decided to open my eyes and start thinking of what great opportunities the future has in store for me, all I have to do is try to do something different.
I know fear can cause many of us to stay exactly where we are. But if we don’t make life changes, then our life will never change, and that would be very great waste. Don’t stay where you are if you are in an unsatisfied state. If might be worth a few difficulties and obstacles for the sake of attaining your dreams.
Make the decision to be your best friend and not your worst enemy. It's all up to you!
To see how negative thinking cost one woman $3 million
Click Here!
We may have many conceptions of who our enemies are; but we all have
one common enemy who is the main cause of our failures, and most of the time we're not even aware of this opponent.
You may not want to admit it, but our worst enemy is ourselves.
Who do you blame when something goes wrong? Do you blame the people around you, the weather, some outside force. But we are the ones who are supposed to be in control of ourselves. If we stop handing over responsibility to someone else we can change the outcome of our lives because we have the power to do that.
Perhaps, like myself, you have been too apprehensive to try out new ventures that may improve our lives. We are all guilty of half-heartedly going to work in our 9 to 5 job. I know that once I get home from work, I watch a bit of TV, check my e-mails, and start getting ready for the next day. The only time I seem to “come alive” is at the weekend. I want to have that “alive” feeling every day of the week. I know why my mind set is different at the weekend. It’s because I’m not at work. My own negative feelings about going to work make the whole experience seem a chore. I know once I change these negatives feelings I will feeling the way I do and start feeling more positive.
So I have decided to open my eyes and start thinking of what great opportunities the future has in store for me, all I have to do is try to do something different.
I know fear can cause many of us to stay exactly where we are. But if we don’t make life changes, then our life will never change, and that would be very great waste. Don’t stay where you are if you are in an unsatisfied state. If might be worth a few difficulties and obstacles for the sake of attaining your dreams.
Make the decision to be your best friend and not your worst enemy. It's all up to you!
To see how negative thinking cost one woman $3 million
Click Here!
Making Your First Small Change
Who was inspired to make life changes after watching the London Marathon today? The stories of some many of the people taking part were inspiring and made me think of many a few changes in my own life. As many of us do, I have the habit of putting off tasks to a later date, only that date never seems to arrive. So after watching the London Marathon I have been inspired to make some changes, and I hope you will join me on my journey and feel inspired to make a few changes yourself.
One thing we need to look at is why we are putting things off. I would like to work for myself and be home based, but for some reason I am still working for someone else. I have to ask myself why. And the simple answer is, because it is easier this way. I go to work and give them 7 hours a day, five days a week and they pay me.
But this has to change. I am not fulfilling my true potential with the work I am doing so I am really achieving nothing. Does this sound familiar to you? Perhaps you are doing the same. Stuck in a rut, wanting to do something about it, but it seems easier to carry on doing what we are doing for an easy life.
So how can we motivate ourselves to get us started. I’ve found that taking a small step towards my goal every day has helped me a lot. If you are making a small change each day then change doesn’t seem so scary. Sometimes it is the unknown we are most scared off, which is silly really, because why are we scared of something that exists in our heads.
By taking a small step each day we can start to see our actions are taking effect. For example, you want to be fitter for summer, and you decide to walk a little more each day. You buy a stepometer and each day you increase the amount of steps. Within a few weeks you have increased your activity without any great effort or expense.
Once we have made the decision to make some life changes, you won’t want to delay. You will be keen to get started. If you are still hesitating, ask yourself why. Is it because you are not sure how to do it, or is cost a factor? Perhaps writing every thing down will make things clearer for you. It doesn’t matter how small the action is every day, just has long as you take action.
I have put off many tasks that need doing. I give myself a long to do list which is off putting and I sometimes have several projects on the go at the same time and I can’t devote the time I need to keep them all on track. Best to keep tasks doable in the amount of time you have. It may be helpful just to give yourself a couple of tasks a day until they are all completed.
Don’t let laziness stop you. You know what I mean “It’s a lovely day, I’ll get started tomorrow” or “I’m busy at work at the moment, so I’ll start when things quieten down”. You know the hardest point will be getting yourself motivated to start. Once you have started, you will find it so much easier to carry on.
For more information on breaking your procrasination habit please
Click Here!
One thing we need to look at is why we are putting things off. I would like to work for myself and be home based, but for some reason I am still working for someone else. I have to ask myself why. And the simple answer is, because it is easier this way. I go to work and give them 7 hours a day, five days a week and they pay me.
But this has to change. I am not fulfilling my true potential with the work I am doing so I am really achieving nothing. Does this sound familiar to you? Perhaps you are doing the same. Stuck in a rut, wanting to do something about it, but it seems easier to carry on doing what we are doing for an easy life.
So how can we motivate ourselves to get us started. I’ve found that taking a small step towards my goal every day has helped me a lot. If you are making a small change each day then change doesn’t seem so scary. Sometimes it is the unknown we are most scared off, which is silly really, because why are we scared of something that exists in our heads.
By taking a small step each day we can start to see our actions are taking effect. For example, you want to be fitter for summer, and you decide to walk a little more each day. You buy a stepometer and each day you increase the amount of steps. Within a few weeks you have increased your activity without any great effort or expense.
Once we have made the decision to make some life changes, you won’t want to delay. You will be keen to get started. If you are still hesitating, ask yourself why. Is it because you are not sure how to do it, or is cost a factor? Perhaps writing every thing down will make things clearer for you. It doesn’t matter how small the action is every day, just has long as you take action.
I have put off many tasks that need doing. I give myself a long to do list which is off putting and I sometimes have several projects on the go at the same time and I can’t devote the time I need to keep them all on track. Best to keep tasks doable in the amount of time you have. It may be helpful just to give yourself a couple of tasks a day until they are all completed.
Don’t let laziness stop you. You know what I mean “It’s a lovely day, I’ll get started tomorrow” or “I’m busy at work at the moment, so I’ll start when things quieten down”. You know the hardest point will be getting yourself motivated to start. Once you have started, you will find it so much easier to carry on.
For more information on breaking your procrasination habit please
Click Here!
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)